Wednesday, April 19, 2006 this for the secret to joy in your life!!

I started this post with the title: "Why do bad things happen??" and planed to write about the two reasons I think bad things happen even to good people, but as I wrote I got off topic so I'll post about that another day.

I've heard these questions and statements from many throughout life and even said a couple of them myself at one time or other: "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "If there is a God he doesn't care about us, if he did he wouldn't let us suffer so much on this earth." "How could a caring, loving God let this happen??" and even the big question of "why????" "Why did this or that happen to me."

I've never really been one to struggle with the question of "why" in life. I've always kind of been of the mind frame "make your bed and lie in it" kind of person. When things get tough, I just grit my teeth and suffer through it.

In many ways this attitude has helped me out in life, I am not a quitter. The tougher something is the more I seem to want to dig my heels in and stand strong.

But you know, He is showing me something very powerful. He wants more from and for me!! He doesn't want me to just "suffer" through life.

I've realized that in trying to make it through life without Christ, I've come up with a lot of self-pity. Self pity as defined by is pity for oneself, especially exaggerated or self-indulgent pity; a feeling of sorrow (often self-indulgent) over your own sufferings. Since becoming new in Christ, self-pity has become disgusting to me, I can't stand that feeling that wants to creep up on me.

There were plenty of times in my old life when something was hard, I'd plod through it, but feel so sorry for myself the whole way. With Christ by my side, nothing is the same. Would you believe He won't let me feel sorry for myself anymore???? Whenever I feel that self-pity creep up, it's like something grabs me and says "HOW DARE YOU FEEL THAT WAY!!!"

Something wonderful starts happening, I start praising Him. I start thanking Him for my arms and legs so I can take of myself and my family, I start thanking Him that my children are healthy, I look around and find even the smallest thing that is good and praise him for it!

I don't have time for self-pity anymore!!!!!!!!!!!! There are so many things to thank and praise Him for that everything else gets crowded out!! His blessings are so great, so wonderful. I could spend the rest of my life just thanking him for creating me!!!

And then let me tell you what He gives me when I do this, pssst.....lean close, it's a secret!!! lol! He give me DEEP joy!!!!! Oh my soul becomes light, I get so giddy and the joy!!!!!!!!!!! Oh His joy is so wonderful!! Whatever I was doing that seemed so hard before, is suddenly light!! The task becomes so easy and even enjoyable!!

How could I have lived 27 years without Him?? Without this joy? I want to run out on the street and grab people up and tell them this wonderful secret!! He is the way to life, to joy, to peace!! Without Him we aren't really living, we are dead!!


Milton Dykes said...


How beautiful and how true! Jesus makes all things turn our right--even the bad and difficult. His joy and peace cannot be taken away. It is full and lasting.

That why we sing, "The Joy of the Lord is our strength." It is so very true.

I love to tell funnies and jokes. A merry heart does good like a medicine Solomon wrote. But I have found that lasting joy comes from Christ not a passing funny. He is joy and life.

Have a blessed day and keep writing. Your words are a blessing.

Love, Dad

Kristy Dykes said...

What a profound post, Jennifer! I just love reading what's flowing out of you. Jesus said it would be like rivers of living water flowing out of your belly. That's what's happening to you. Though I've been a Christian for as long as I remember, I am growing in my faith by reading about yours.

Thanks, Sweetie, for your commitment to this blog.

I bless you in the name of the Lord, that you will have peace and grace today.

Love, Mom

cj said...

The day you wrote this was the day I was having hip surgery at the age of 28. I was in an car accident on the 17th and broke my left hip. This is the first time in my life I have not questioned "Why am I going through this?". I know why, God has been trying to get my attention for quite some time. Trying to draw me closer to him, trying to work in my marriage and I have been a little on the stubborn side lately. I have always been independant, and strong, not leaning on God or my husband for anything. Well here I am a whole month later, getting better but still not 100%, still not walking without assistance, still needing some help from my husband for normal things, not driving..etc. I have had to become completly dependant on him at first, but more importantly I have had to become dependant on God and faith. Faith that I will completly recover, faith that we will make it financially untill I am allowed to return to work, faith that God will continue to work in my marriage. But that faith wasn't there all at once I have slowly , reluctantly opend the door a little wider and am beginging to step forth out of the destruction. I have a long way to go. But like I said I have not asked why, this time, I knew from the begining God was trying to give me a wake up call.
Your friend,